The Letter You Will Never Send by Penny Lucas, Counsellor at Tranquillo Place For many of us there will come a time when we are struggling with conflict in a particular relationship in our life. Perhaps something hurtful has been said or done that you just can’t seem to let go of. There may have…
Alcohol May Increase Anxiety
By Penny Lucas Ever wonder why after a few drinks you wake at 3am and start cataloguing every cringey moment you’ve had in your life? Torturing yourself with memories of things you wish you’d never said and moments of embarrassment? You might feel agitated and overheated as you toss and turn unable to settle and…
Can Counselling Help Me Find My Calling?
by Joanna McCormick What is a “Calling”? Calling is defined as “a profession or career which someone is strongly attracted to, especially one which involves helping other people” (Collins). Another dictionary (Merriam-Webster) points to “a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence”. Those who consider…
How do we self-regulate if we have an anxious attachment style?
About 20% of the population live with an anxious attachment style. The development of an anxious attachment style is often associated with parents who were inconsistently responsive to our needs. Sometimes primary caregivers /parents may have been supportive and responsive, and at other times they were mis-attuned and needs were not met. Primary Caregivers /…
Grief and Restorative Yoga
By Penny Lucas Grief Counselling and Restorative Yoga Yoga for Grief My work as both a grief counsellor and a restorative yoga teacher actually have a distinct connection. Restorative Yoga as a standalone practice was born from grief. Originally Restorative Yoga practice was a part of the Iyengar Yoga sequence, it was tacked on to…
Why Is Massage A Healing Tool? What Is Trauma Informed Massage?
by Rebekah Russell Trauma Informed Massage Explained Massage History Somatic therapies, or body-based therapies (‘soma” from the Greek word meaning body), have been part of healing practices across myriad civilizations and throughout the ages. The power of therapeutic touch has been employed to ameliorate suffering and promote a felt sense of wellbeing. Massage, in particular has been used as…
Do you know your Attachment Style?
What is my attachment style? Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? This is the question Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller ask in their book “Attached” and can lead to a greater understanding of the dynamics of our close relationships. As adults, we inter-relate with each other based on one of the three most…
I’m in Crisis Mode: 3 Tips to Help
by Joanna McCormick In ebbs and flows of life, inevitably sometimes we find ourselves in crisis mode. Whether brought to us externally, like a death of a loved one, or internally – like a diagnosis and illness. When there is a crisis, many people feel overwhelmed, lost, not knowing what to do and where to…
Overwhelmed – Try Small Steps
Small steps every day. If you are struggling and overwhelmed then your steps might need to be tiny. Ask yourself: “What’s the next best step I could take? 🐢 One action 🐢 Even if it seems a bit small 🐢 Be kind to yourself 🐢 One effective action will make a difference 🐢 Every day…
Understanding Codependency
Understanding Codependency Overly Invested ‘Co-dependent’, it’s a term most of us have heard but perhaps don’t completely understand. Co-dependency can be understood as being overly invested in the decisions, feelings, circumstances, and outcomes of the people in your life, to the detriment of your own wellbeing. Initially co-dependency was believed to be an aspect of…